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Hello! I’m pretty new to this dating thing, by which I mean I’ve been in a few serious relationships, each of which started when a close lady friend and I started smooching, but I haven’t gotten to know a new person through dates. I don’t really know what I’m doing, but it’s not too late to start figuring it out! I’m single after a recent My ex wrote a testimonial about me; check it out at the end of this doc. breakup and living in the Bay, which means it’s time to write a Date Me Doc. My goal for this document is to help my friends matchmake for me, or to give you the information to decide whether you’re interested.
I Am…
- A 27-year old man.
- My fuzzy attraction cluster in person-space centers on cis women and AFAB enbies, but doesn't rule out trans men or women. It doesn't contain cis men; I hope to bi-hack eventually but I'm not currently trying.
- Polyamorous, and it’s important to me.
- Based in Vallejo, CA (north of Berkeley).
- An old-school rationalist – I do most of my socializing with the rationalist community in Berkeley.
- 5'9" and 235 lbs I'm rapidly losing weight thanks to tirzepatide. Last updated: 2025-02-16
I Want…
- A casual relationship or friend with benefits.
- Lots of physical touch/intimacy.
- Interesting conversation and fun outings.
- Meetups 1-4 times a month, with daily to weekly texting in between.
You Should Date Me Because…
- I’m very comfy to hug and cuddle, and I like giving back rubs.
- I will cook delicious food for you.
- I’m emotionally stable and good at identifying and discussing feelings and boundaries (yours and mine).
- I’m smart and nerdy.
- People invite me to parties because I’m fun to have around, and I’d love to take you with me.
- I’m a generous and devoted lover, sexually adventurous, and kink-friendly.
- I’m open-minded and novelty-seeking in general.
- I’ve traveled to 18 countries.
- I’ve eaten some weird food – I think rooster testicles top the list.
- I’ve tried many drugs and intend to try more.
- I give great advice, according to my friends.
You Shouldn’t Date Me Because…
- I’m still She's my best friend and has been since well before we started dating. I've done enough emotional processing since the breakup to stop fixating on getting back together with her as a romantic partner, but I expect she'll always have a piece of my heart.
- I’m unemployed and live with my dad, although I’m working on remedying that.
- My job search is keeping me busy so I have limited free time.
I’ll Probably Be Into You If…
- We’re already friends.
- You love to cuddle.
- You enjoy strategy games, especically Magic.
- Your hair is short and/or unnaturally colored.
- Cool tattoos are also a good sign.
- You one-box in Newcomb’s Problem.
- You like hallucinogens.
It’s Not A Dealbreaker If…
- We have a big age gap in either direction.
- You’re married / have kids.
- You’re asexual – as long as you like other kinds of touch.
Testimonial From My Ex
Cynthia, my best friend / ex-girlfriend (that’s her in the picture above), wrote a very sweet and detailed perspective of me. Read it here!
Let’s Match
Thanks for reading! If you might be a good match for me, even if you aren’t sure, please fill out this form or contact me directly! Also, feel free to share this document or otherwise set me up with people you know!
